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Hell Yes
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Hell Yes

But here's the secret sauce for exceptional decision making. Decision making that will end analysis paralysis. Choose the path that has your mind, body, and spirit yelling "Hell yes - I want that" in unison, with wild abandon. 

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Soft and Strong
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Soft and Strong

I used to think that being guarded was cool and tough. I used to think that I would be safe if I didn't let anyone get to me. I was missing the big picture. Guarded is cool, tough, and safe but it's also lonely. 

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Younger Man. New Woman.
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Younger Man. New Woman.

I've fallen in love at first sight a few times in my life. As an accountant, that's hard to admit. It makes no damn sense. But when I consider my closest relationships, human and beast, I loved most of them at first sight. 

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New Car. New Woman.
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

New Car. New Woman.

As a widow, it picks my ass when people tell me that I need to be alone, learn to be comfortable with loneliness, find myself, love myself, blah, blah. Fuck. Off. 

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Too Much of a Good Thing
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Too Much of a Good Thing

There's a profound difference between intentionally taking on a challenge and a shocking blast that rocks the bedrock of life. But I've discovered a few things that help me navigate change regardless of its magnitude or source. 

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Thrill Yourself
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Thrill Yourself

I quit setting goals. Not because I've recovered from being Type A (from what I can tell, that's a hard-wired condition). I found something more powerful. My "I would be thrilled if..." list. Until that list, my goals were decidedly realistic. I unwittingly reverse engineered what I thought was possible. 

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Happier New Year
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Happier New Year

Even though death is a relentless mother fucker who comes for us all, he comes bearing gifts. He'll help you get your priorities straight in one broken heartbeat.

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Single Sucks
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Single Sucks

I've been on my own for almost a year. I'm not a fan. I miss every kind of intimacy. I've been told that I should stay single. It picks my ass so it's probably true. (pause to consider deleting that because I'm resisting the shit out of it. soldier on.)

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Relationship Advice From A Widow
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Relationship Advice From A Widow

It's coming up on a year since my husband died. A heart attack out of the clear blue sky on a random Tuesday. I've been reflecting on our marriage and am filled with gratitude or regret depending on the day and my blood sugar level.

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Warning: Foul Language
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Warning: Foul Language

I have a tendency to put lipstick on pigs. The new lingo is "toxic positivity". In general, positivity is positive. But occasionally, I need some good old-fashioned negativity. Some righteous indignation. Some anger.

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Witchy Woman
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Witchy Woman

Saying "my first two husbands" in the same breath as contemplating a third makes me think of taking up smoking and wearing diamonds and furs. And that I should come with a warning label.

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My Full, Broken Heart
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My Full, Broken Heart

The price of joy is pain. Because everything comes to an end one way or another. So bring on the fucking pain.

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Too Sweet
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

Too Sweet

I've been taking this fulfillment thing too far. Time for some pleasure.

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The Wild Side
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

The Wild Side

I'm free. I have no husband, my girls are independent of my daily care, and work is a want instead of a need. There were times when I longed for this freedom. 

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What Now?!
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

What Now?!

Seven months as a widow. The longest stretch that I've been single since I was 16 years old.

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The Waiting Place
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

The Waiting Place

I’ve spent years in the waiting place. Waiting in a career that no longer inspires me, waiting in an unhealthy relationship, waiting until I have more money.

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More Soft Curves
Kelly LaVallie Kelly LaVallie

More Soft Curves

Reconnecting with my femininity. Funny. Passionate. Intuitive. Sexy. Nurturing. Comforting. Provider of soul food. Loving. Creative. Less hard edges. More soft curves.

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